8 June 2010
Bipolar ex abandoned me 4months ago, drunk dials me at 4am yesterday & asks me to come over, then stands me up?
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He has been diagnosed by a psychologist as having bipolar type 1
My ex abandoned me 4 months ago. He basically dumped me without telling me that he was dumping me. No explanation, or warning whatsoever. He simply did not contact me for 4 MONTHS after!!! He ignored me on Valentine’s Day, Easter, my birthday, and didnt invite me to his 18th birthday.
Yesterday, after 4 LONG months of “no contact”, he out-of-the-blue sends me 2 texts messages from AIM (somehow he can text my cell phone from AIM Instant Messenger), and then 2 minutes later he actually calls my phone (“drunk-dialed” my phone.)
All of this took place within a 5-minute time frame. Why would he even have my number or AIM screen name after 4 months of IGNORING ME. It’s not like we broke up on good terms since he abandoned me. He’s bipolar type 1, drinks, and smokes weed. But he would never treat his current “significant other” this way… no matter how drunk he was. He’s 18-years-ld and I was much older. He was using me financially for money/gifts.
Anywyas, he talked to me for 2-minutes and then asks me to drive to see him.
He doesnt have a car, so I drove 3 hours roundtrip (90 minutes each way) to see him and he STANDS ME UP?
How can someone change their mind in 90 minutes? I was sitting in my car, on his driveway, pissed.
I sent him 2 texts messages, and called his phone which he let go to voicemail.
The bottom line is I wasted 3 hours of my life, and $25 of my hard-earned money on gas.
Earlier that night I had just driven 4 hours on a long-distance trip.
He never apologized the next day for standing me up, or for abandoning me 4 months earlier.
A couple days later, I sent him like a 30-page email. He never even responded.
What was his point in calling me (after 4 months) if he was just going to stand me up?
Obviously, he doesnt care about me. He doesnt love me. He doesnt want to be with me. I am nothing to him.
How would you feel if your ex (whom you fell in love with) did this rotten drunk-dial nonsense to you after 4 months of no contact?
I was hoping when I arrived at his house that he was going to apologize for abandoning me 4 months earlier, but instead he stood me up. Very sad indeed.
Even if he was “drunk”, he could have apologized the next day when he sobered up. He could have responded to my email. I guess he simply does not want to reconcile. He just continues to ignore me.
He’s 18 and im 36. I live 90 minutes away from him, each way.
Anyways, he never apologized for abandoning me 4 months ago, or for standing me up last night, or making me spend all that gas money ($25).
Im just a sugar daddy to him. He abuses my love for him, H ewould neevr do this to anyone else.
Is he a bad person?
He’s had 12 “relationships” by the time he was 16. He’s a high school drop out. He was sent into foster care at a late age of 16. He spent 6 months their. Anyways, he likes to drink and is hyper-sexual. A ************. He lies, manipulates, and cheats.
Does this have anything to do with BIPOLAR type 1?
He doesn’t take his Seroquel medication, or go to therapy. He smokes weed daily, and cigarettes. He also drinks.
How do you think I felt when I saw his ex’s car on his driveway when I arrived at his house?
It is mental torture for me. And yes, he is incredibly **** and good looking.
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4 Comments so far...
C Shoe Says:
11 June 2010 at 10:42 am.
Sounds like a safe guy to marry (sarcasm). Are you saying ex-boyfriend or ex-husband? Probably boyfriend, but either way, having *** with anyone before they were 18 was statutory rape, if he wants to sue. Watch out, but it doesn’t sound like he’s clever enough to sue anybody. It sounds like his attitude and leaving you have much more to do with his weed then with his bipolar disorder. Seroquel and weed don’t mix. Drinking isn’t good with it, either, but not as bad as weed. Tell him to move to California; weed’s about to be legal there. Do you love him for his personality, or just for the ***?
Freddie Says:
11 June 2010 at 3:25 pm.
I’m afraid he was just using you as an older guy for money. You’re a mature adult and you don’t need this kind of crap. move on and find someone who will treat you well and love you as much as you deserve. I’m bipolar and would never give anyone this crap. him and his ex deserve each other.
I know you’re hurting but seriously just remove him from your life, forget him and find someone who will treat you well.
xxx
borrein Says:
12 June 2010 at 11:14 am.
Regarding the person previous to this answer, that is not statutory rape, 16 is consenting age, 17 is above that age. Research it.
Now onto your question sir. I’m a Bi-Polar Type Schizoaffective, this means I can have my ups and my downs, but to answer your question honestly, I’d say, yes and no. There are some aspects that are of the mental disorder in question, then there are other parts that are just plain flat being an ******* without an excuse.
Leaving you for 4 months out of the blue with 0 contact. It depends on how he felt about things. I know I was once in a relationship in which I felt trapped. The guy bought me things, took care of me, the *** was great, but relationship wise, I was completely unsatisfied and had to pretend I was enjoying the relationship. I’ve often thought of ways I could possibly get out of the relationship and just disappear, but this was due to the ex being overbearing on me, kept shoving religion down my throat when I didn’t want it. I acted like I converted and was a believer (really was atheist the whole time) and was trapped because I had nowhere else to go, nowhere else to turn to, having no options at all but to stay with him.
I looked for everything possible until a friend came up wanting a room mate to sleep in his room (nothing sexual, just wanted someone for company). I told my ex however that I was leaving and we left on good terms and ever since then I’ve felt the biggest relief that I could ever imagine.
It’s possible your ex just felt trapped with you, regardless of how well you treated him. I don’t think it’s part of the bi-polar condition just up and leaving like that even though I’ve thought of the same thing about my ex, but the point of the matter remains, regardless of the fact that I felt trapped, I looked for any possible option. I didn’t want to **** anyone off, I **** confrontation to this day.
Now regarding the drinking, the drug abuse, etc that’s not really bi-polar acts per se, but it has been noted in psychology as being “self medicating reactions” which is something noticed in pi-polars quite a bit.
Hope this helps you come to understanding something.
Hopp24ycat Says:
14 June 2010 at 7:16 pm.
Why do you want somebody so, so toxic in your life? Change your ‘phone number.